A The Baptist Deacon

A post for Saved By Grace

deaconfarley | April 08, 2008 15:38

This is a repost of my Valentines post. I am reposting it for savedbygrace.  Her post this morning was titled The Pain of Porn. In her post I could feel her pain. I wanted to comment but her blog does not allow comments. I hope she will be able to read this and draw strength. Viewing porn is wrong! That is my stand. Men that fall into this trap (and it is a trap) need help. The good woman standing by her husband may not be enough. Women don’t think that it is your fault if you man looks at porn and he shouldn’t look. I’ll explain below.

I know that the devil has things in the world to hinder the work of God and the work of marriage. One of those things is the internet. When used properly it is one of the greatest tools ever invented. It also provides a place for predators of all kinds. Some target children some target men neither are a good thing.

Men get trapped in an addiction to porn and I call it an addiction. Some men don’t even believe they are doing anything wrong. Have you ever known a man that viewed porn regularly? It is nearly impossible to break this addiction unless there is some accountability set up, a lot of prayer or just taking his access to the internet away. The porn sites are so easy to access.

I believe God made all women beautiful and men enjoying looking, I understand that and I also understand that some women use it to there benefit to get what they want. I’m not trying to make it sound like the women are to blame. Let’s go back to the Garden of Eden. In Geneses chapter 3 the serpent came to Eve. The deceiver had a conversation with her. Then the lie came in verse 4 when he told her “ye shall not surely die.” Then look at verses 5 & 6:  5For God doth know that in the day ye eat thereof, then your eyes shall be opened, and ye shall be as gods, knowing good and evil. 6And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat. The lie completed the deception.  She saw that the tree was good for food and that it was pleasant to the eyes.

This is how sin works. There was some truth mixed in with the lie. Sin pleases the eye and it pleases the flesh, but there is only pleasure in sin for a season. What price does one pay for deception and sin? It took Adam to complete the sin. In other words in this case it took two.

Women that exploit there beauty to get what they want only works if the man accepts in other words it takes two.

I would like to think that a Christian woman and a Christian man would be strong enough to avoid this kind of temptation, but sadly this is not always the case.

Now you can turn the tables, some men are able to exploit their good looks to get what they want out of women. Men will even take it a step farther and promise a woman anything to get what they want then they drop them like dirty laundry when they get it.

Let’s go back to the porn sites for a few minutes. They degrade women. They change mans perspective of what a real woman is. It is hard for a man who falls into this trap to distinguish between what is real and what is fictional. What about young boys who see this stuff by accident? I say by accident because it is out there looking for them. It could set there outlook toward women. They can even expect things that just can’t happen.

Proverbs chapter 31 verse 30: Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.

Husbands respect your wife. Men show women the respect they deserve. Do not get caught up in the unreal world of porn, if you do get help.

God created woman from man because he saw the he was alone and therefore a woman is a gift to man from God. Men treat your woman as a gift something to be cherished and loved. I believe all women (wife’s) deserve respect.

This year my wife and I will be married for 18 years. We haven’t always seen eye to eye on everything, she has been aggravating on several things and I sure she’s let me off easy compared to the aggravation I have caused her.

She truly is my soul mate. I truly am blessed more than I deserve with a woman that gives me her love for I really feel loved by her. She is a real gift from God. She is something real, with real love and affection. She completes me.

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